(Relationships) Can a Guy ‘Life-Hack’ a Girl’s Operating System?

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Can a Guy ‘Life-Hack’ a Girl’s Operating System?

Baseball caps
Beards
Biceps
Body symmetry
Broad shoulders
Cologne
Jawline

Let’s define terms.  What is a “Life-Hack’?  Much like a phone-hack, “jail-breaking” your phone is where you break into your phone to override its functionality to one that you personalize.  The reader is asking if you can ‘Life-Hack’ your girl.  He is wondering whether a guy can override a girl’s pre-programmed desire.

Let’s have a look. 

1.       Baseball caps?  Who cares?  This is not part of her operating system.  It’s just trendy right now.  If girls say they like them, it’s not the cap, but HOW you wear it.  You have to wear it like you own it.  Bring out your inner rapper and act like your Lambo is parked around the corner.

2.       Beards?  Most women don’t like beards.  They are scratchy and they hurt.  Since most women like to kiss, this could be a negative.  Few men have beards that aren’t scratchy.  Maybe if you’re blondish, the hair would be softer.  Why do women say they like it?  If we are looking at a movie poster, i.e. from afar, a face we don’t have to kiss, it conjures up that you have been in the wild finding us food or killing the bad guys.

                                                  Liam Hemsworth, yes.  3 days is good.

                                                           Seth Rogan?  Not so much.


3.       Biceps.  This one is hard-wired.  In general, Mother Nature made men bigger, badder, stronger, faster than women.  Biceps represent strength.  In the event of a threat or danger, you look like you can handle the situation.  This makes a girl feel safe and protected.  Every guy can pump some iron at the gym.  Get to it.

4.       Body symmetry.  Psychologically speaking, this trait holds true for both sexes.  Symmetry represents good health, meaning good for breading.  If something is out of alignment and you can work on it, do so.  A strong body is a good body.

5.       Broad shoulders.  Yes. For the same reasons as Biceps.  Women favor strength that they don’t have.

6.       Cologne.  The global perfume market is worth about 30 billion dollars!  Yes, women are attracted to fragrance.  In a recent famous study, women were asked to rate the attractiveness of sweaty t-shirts worn most recently by men.  Women were drawn to men who have a scent different than their own.  Biologically speaking, divergent genetic makeup is nature’s way of preventing in-breeding.  Chemistry not only comprises whether you (emotionally) click or not, but also a person’s scent.  This strong chemical composition, otherwise known as Pheromones, magnetically bond us to people we are supposed to mate with to give the offspring an advantage in fighting disease.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/evolution/library/01/6/l_016_08.html

Out of 300 de-boarding passengers, I was eventually able to figure out where the scent was coming from and followed a guy from the concourse to the baggage area to find out what scent he was wearing.  Calvin Klein’s Obsession for Men.  It was like a drug.  I couldn’t not trail him.  Scent is very powerful for women.  I’d head over to the nearest fragrance counter to figure out what works best for you.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000E7YJR4?ie=UTF8&camp=213733&creative=393177&creativeASIN=B000E7YJR4&linkCode=shr&tag=dt4m-20&linkId=RZYV7CTCQRUIFEXG

7.       Jawline.  Aside from this feature being very photogenic, this physical attribute connotes competency.  A baby’s face, which is usually round and pudgy, is still immature.  Conversely, men who have defined jawlines indicate maturity.  Of course, it has nothing to do with age, as genetically, some people are more blessed than others and their profile does not change with time.  That being said, women prefer a strong line.  A Princeton professor claimed he could predict congressional candidates with 70% accuracy by just rating their jawlines.

http://www.princeton.edu/main/news/archive/S15/62/69K40/index.xml?section=topstories

I suppose if you have a weak jawline, you could cover that up with a beard, but then there is the danger of offending some women who do not like beards.

In summary, is it possible to jailbreak your girl?  Yes.  After watching how Jodi Arias honeymooned the jurors, yes, anything is possible.  Should you do it?  To maximize the cast of your net, I think each guy should do whatever he can to accentuate the positives and downplay the negatives.  Some aspects of the attributes are genetically there and you have to let those go. 

Overall, more important than the attributes is not what they are but how you play them.  CONFIDENCE trumps all.  Being 5’7” is not on any woman’s like-ability radar.  That being said, when Tom Cruise walks into the room, everyone notices.

The more important question is why would you want to change her genetic outlook?  Much like the phone, once you hack into it, you can’t go back to the original operating system.  Guys don’t like it when the girl has had her boobs altered, looks nothing like her pre-made up face, or takes her Spanx off to reveal a sack full of mush.  If you have to resort to deceit and games to get her to like you, then you haven’t done what it takes to get her to like you.  Forget your list above.  It’s 99% CONFIDENCE.  I’d chalk up the remaining 1% to “It’s not meant to be”.  If she isn’t attracted to you, it’s for a reason.  According to my principle, nature works best when it’s easy.  If you have to force a round peg into a square hole, you’re going to end up breaking the whole table. 

Follow your gut on whom you are naturally attracted to.  Nature isn’t stupid.  It has safeguards there for a reason.  The rest of your time, spend it on increasing your CONFIDENCE. 

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